Mom’s Meals for Mom

During my childhood, my mom made supper every night after she got off work.  She worked at our high school, so she left work when we got out of school.  Her working at my school is a totally different post… let me just say that I was more afraid of my mother than the principal! I never did anything wrong anyway, but I still had the fear.

She cooked every day, and on Sunday we had a big dinner- usually a roast.  Since her stroke, she hates to cook.  I think it is because she doesn’t really have to cook since it would be just for her.  I tried a few of the meals you can order online to see if she liked those.  One company was a definite “No”, she told me to not get them anymore because they were so bad!

I also tried Mom’s Meals, and she loved them!  I order her meals from the diabetic menu, and she really likes them.  She said they come in a cooler of some sort, and aren’t frozen.  I haven’t tried them, but she seems to really like all of the meals.  She said the portions are perfect because she doesn’t waste any of them.  Even though they are easy for her to fix, it doesn’t feel like she is eating a TV dinner.

Just wanted to put it out there, because I value honest reviews.

Trying to Accept Mom Aging

I am in my 30’s and still living a nontraditional life.  Mom always said that I lived in the clouds and did things my own way.  She did not mean that as a compliment to my free-spirited soul.  She was strict, conservative, and demanded I act accordingly.  It is not stretch to say that for a decade, I was quite the disappointment.

The interesting thing about all this is that she isn’t the same person anymore.  She suffered from a major stroke a few years ago, and her entire outlook on life and personality has changed.  Definitely for the better!  She says that her near death experience really scared her and made her realize that she can’t go through life like she did.  Her blood pressure was 270/something else high when she had her stroke.  I was so shocked at the 270 number that I forgot the bottom number.

Her health is still terrible, and she wants me to clean up her diet for her.  So when I go down, I will be putting “Forks Over Knives” in the DVD player and teaching her about a plant based diet.

I have to admit that it was a shock to see her health declining so sharply, because I always see her as a stern strong woman. I am just grateful that I am used to being around the elderly who are disabled, because I don’t want to lose patience with her while she ages.

I am curious how it will affect me when I have to make the decision to put her in an assisted living or nursing home.  We were raised to openly talk about death, because it saves you from arguing with family later.  So it was no surprise when I spoke to her yesterday, she told me that she and her sister bought their cemetery plots.  She also went ahead and picked out her headstone.  She is moving into a senior community (only 60+ age residents) this week, so maybe the transitions won’t be so bad for either one of us as she ages.  I told her not to unpack anything that she did not need, because I will do it when I get there.  I am taking bets on whether or not she listens.

Be The Match Registry

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In April of 2000, I decided to join the Be The Match registry to become a potential bone marrow donor.  Be The Match organization had set up a table and chairs in our mall, and I walked right up to see what it was all about.  I must have read a book or news article about the organization because I was aware of the registry.  Their website states that average donors have a 1 in 540 chance to be called to donate bone marrow.  I have been patiently waiting for my call, but was met with silence.  What happened?

My questions were answered in an email from Be The Match stating that I have a rare human leukocyte antigen (HLA), and probably will never be matched as a donor.  The flip side is that if someone matches my HLA typing, then they really need my donation since it is so rare.  I told my mom about the discovery, and we both agreed that it was a good thing that I haven’t needed a donation for myself.

I am really looking forward to being a donor, so I told a friend about the program.  She went to the website and ordered the free kit (which is to be returned with her cheek swab).  Hopefully, her HLA typing will have a higher chance of matching with someone.

It is free to join the registry, as well as no charge for donating, and the website gives a lot of information about being a potential donor, recipient, and how it all works.  According to the information sent to me, my chances of being a match are about 1 in 10 million.  Regardless, I am still on the list just in case that one person matches this crazy allele of mine!