Lucy has left the driveway!

The roaptrip to Washington DC has officially started.  I only got in a few arguments with mom this morning and she only threatened to go back to NC once.

We made it 45 minutes down the road, and the ladies decided they needed lunch at Chili’s.  A sit down lunch…this 4 hour drive is going to take a while.

Mom has already complained about the front row oldies concert she is experiencing.   My aunt and I are singing our hearts out, and mom is trying to read in the backseat.


Lucy the Lexus waiting for us to return from our first stop on the road trip.




Tomorrow starts my DC family trip

My mother and aunt are in town for us to start our DC trip in the morning.  I am already having doubts about this trip going smoothly.  It is easy to forget how Mom and I interact when we don’t live near each other.  It will be a long long week/weekend.  Plus, they don’t know how long they are staying here in WV with me after the trip.  I expected them to leave for NC the day or so after we returned from DC.  Wasn’t too happy to hear of their sticking around plans.

I need to just remember this is a trip I am doing to be nice, and for it to be memorable for them.

They have informed me that the VW isn’t going to be big enough for all of our stuff, and they brought tons of crafts to do in the evening.  Therefore, my aunt should drive her car since it is bigger.  I squashed that in one breath.  There is no way I was going to let these two become Magellan and Ponce de Leon in the front seat, while I get frustrated in the backseat.

To solve this, I will be driving my sweet Lucy.  Lucy the Lexus is my faithful Lexus RX that has been through life with me.  She has been an awesome vehicle for living at the beach and in the mountains of WV.  Lucy doesn’t have satellite radio, so I don’t usually drive her unless i need 4 wheel drive.  I should start driving her more often again.

The driving issue has been solved, although i am perplexed that they thought i would be ok with them driving.  The trip starts bright at early tomorrow…this is going to test my patience!

Boycotting Indiana

As it stands right now, we have decided to boycott Indiana in our “50 States Tour”.

Hopefully, the state will get their act together by the time we make it out that way.

I  never understood how someone can have so much hate. Making it through life is tough enough, we don’t need others to make it worse.  I guarantee that you have a person who is gay in your family (living or deceased), or know someone who is afraid to come out. I posted earlier about how miserable school was for me, and I couldn’t imagine trying to come to terms with hatred due to my sexuality as well.

I have a family member who came out to me when we were in college.  They were very nervous, because I was the first family member they told.  It wasn’t a secret that I believe in equal rights and freedoms for everyone.  It was really sweet how they told me.  They learned how to spell it out in sign language, since I was able to sign since middle school.  Maybe it was easier to say it by doing that way.  I hated that they felt so worried about telling me.

I don’t understand why people say “Why don’t they just come out already”.  Well, it isn’t any of our business if someone is straight, gay, or bi-sexual, in the closet or not, or transgender.

Going back to my family member.  This is from an email they sent me last year.

“I love your Mom because I think I’ve been able to have the relationship I’ve had with my own Mother because of her. My parents and I almost parted ways, you probably remember. You told me yourself that your Mom was the one that encouraged my Mom to except me and I have owed you and her for helping me stay in the lives of my own parents.”

Such sweet words.  It makes me really proud to have a mother who can help someone feel accepted when things seem otherwise.

How is my family member now? Awesome, as always! They are extremely fair and kind to others, which I find to be the most important qualities in a person.  I have never heard mean or malicious words by them.  Coming out to us didn’t change our opinion of them, because they are still the same person as always.  I wish Indiana lawmakers would realize that your sexuality doesn’t make you good or evil.

I really feel bad for people who don’t have the support or strength to be themselves.  How lonely to live where you don’t feel welcome to buy food, all because of the ignorance and hate of our lawmakers.  Therefore, until the law is completely changed, I will not spend my money in Indiana.

3. South Carolina

Coloring in the state of South Carolina on my map of the 50-state travels is easy.  My family would head to South Carolina every year for our family vacations.  Also, I lived in the state for ten years before moving to WV.

As for our vacations… ahh, the road trip itself was enough to need a vacation.  First, let me just say that my family were campers.  Yes, we went to the beach and camped in a tent at the campground.  Actually, we always were camping somewhere.  Even in college, I would go camping up in the mountains because that is all my friends and I could afford for entertainment!

Our family had a small two door Toyota Tercel, which was a hatchback.  Zero air conditioning.  Pops would round us up and leave around 1:00 am so we would sleep and it wouldn’t be so hot driving.  It was a great idea, except I always had to sleep on the floorboard after they stacked pillows and blankets to fill it up.  This was because I was smaller than my brother, so he got to sleep on the seat part.  You don’t understand family road trips until you travel without phones, air conditioning, a Walkman (although that did come later), or even bathroom breaks!  I think it took us seven or eight hours to get to our destination.  I do the same drive now, and it takes me close to six hours.

Eventually, we would get to the beach.  This was sometime in the 1980’s in SC with my Mom.  She didn’t want to take a picture.  She really wanted me to get back into the pool so she could finish reading her book.

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